Beauty, brains, ambition, vulnerability and all that is in between. I first came across Nudelipstix‘s blog when My Sister’s Keeper’s blogging journey began. Her page and posts, resonated with me because of her honesty. The internet is filled with people who appear to have picture perfect lives, and sometimes it’s hard to relate or see yourself or your life in the same way, especially when it’s so far from that. Not only is she inspirational, but she is 100% real and relatable! We were so sure once we decided to do interview features on the blog, that we had to include Nudelipstix, because her Instagram feed gives us LIFE!!! It’s verging on an obsession, so check out this interview and then hop on over to her blog and Insta and get liking away- TRUST US, we guarantee you will fall in love with her as well!
Q: What is the tone/sound of your alarm clock?
A: I actually don’t have an alarm clock; I live right beside a Daycare so I normally wake up at 9:00 a.m. to the sound of a bunch of little people screaming, laughing and crying.
Q: Morning person or night owl?
A: Night owl for sure, I normally go to bed around 3-4 a.m.
Q: Fave quote
A: “This too shall pass”
Q: Sandals or Sneakers?
Q: Your word for the year
Q: Last picture you took
A: I just sent a double chin selfie to my best friend on Snapchat. I don’t know, it’s just this weird thing we do throughout the day, send each other extremely unattractive selfies.
Q: What book would you recommend?
A: The Great Gatsby. I know that sounds strange and you were probably expecting me to say the newest & hippest personal development book, but every time I read The Great Gatsby I get something different out of it. I’ve learned that love can be very real and still very unfair, you have the power to be perceived as whom you want to be perceived as, materials are simply materials, and the list goes on. Any time I can’t get my brain to slow down I read the same copy of the Great Gatsby that I’ve had since the 9th grade, I really think there’s a reason it is so critically acclaimed. Everyone should read it at least once.
Q: Countryside or beach?
Q: One fun fact about you
A: I used to play tennis growing up. I wanted to be Serena more than anything in this world.
Q: Electronic or paper calendar?
A: Both, electronic for my work/social life & paper for NL.
Q: Fave flower
A: Hydrangeas. They just make me smile.
Q: Savoury or sweet?
Q: Fave artists
A: Erykah Badu, she has always been so beautifully and unapologetically herself. And not in a “look at me I don’t give a fuck” type of way, but in such an earnest, passion filled way. I also love DVSN, Popcaan, Kanye, Bunji Garlin, TLC, the list goes on, my taste in music is all over the place.
Q: Fave season
Q: How would you describe your fashion style?
A: Cozy chic
Q: What do you do to relax?
A: I go out! I used to be so ashamed of the fact that I was 25 and still so in the party scene, but I really do love getting ready with my girls so we can go out dancing, or for a nice dinner, or even to discover new things in the city. I think it’s a great distraction that allows me to create life long memories.
Q: Current role model
A: I know this is going to sound vein but, me. I’ve spent so many years looking up to other people, admiring them, being inspired by them, even wishing I was them and I’m just no longer in that place anymore. I’m finally at a point where I know I can do whatever I put my mind to, so why not be my own role model. I am my own role model because I know that I’m far from perfect, but I’m learning how to accept my imperfections all while striving towards becoming a strong, young, independent entrepreneur. And while I’m no Beyoncé or Michelle Obama, I think there is something so powerful and inspiring about the people who are starting their journeys.
Q: What causes you anxiety?
A: Anxiety is a weird thing for me; it’s almost always the tiniest thing that will send me into a full blown anxiety attack. But after years of journaling I’ve realized it’s the things that I don’t have control over that gives me anxiety. Lack of control always sends me on this downward spiral that makes me question myself and what I’m capable of. I remember a couple years ago I spent an entire day trying to get the Iphone 6 in the rose gold colour. I was calling a bunch of locations to see if they had the colour I wanted and I finally found one in a mall about 45 mins away. Once I got to the mall the phone was gone and this just triggered me. I started thinking “well if I can’t get a phone in the colour I want what can I accomplish?” somehow that one simple situation turned into me on my bedroom floor crying that I’ll never accomplish anything in life because I’m incapable, when in reality the situation was simply just out of my control. It was an Iphone 6 in rose gold for God sakes; they were selling like frikken hot cakes. Some days I’m completely fine and I understand and respect that I cannot control everything, other days a text message that says “hey” can set my heart racing simply because I don’t know what information will be followed by the “hey”.
Q: What steps do you take to make time for yourself?
A: Honestly, I have 2 roommates, I work full time, and the rest of my free time I spend creating for NL. Time for myself lately has been very rare, so I’m trying this new thing where I sneak in a 20-minute walk every day. So far it seems to be doing the trick.
Q: How do you challenge yourself?
A: I challenge myself by doing anything that scares me. I used to dream up these elaborate ideas and then immediately say “But I could never do that”, recently I just started challenging myself by seeing these ideas through.
Q: If I could grant you one wish, what would it be?
A: Right at this moment I could really use a coffee. I’m easy to please.
Q: What 3 things bring you joy?
A: My friends/family, dancing, Nude Lipstix.
Q: When was the last time you meditated?
A: Last night before bed.
Q: What would you like your legacy to be?
A: I want to be known for being the girl who was brave enough to do the things she dreamt of doing. I want my life to inspire other females to do the same and to stop falling into the trap of mediocrity because it’s easy and comfortable.
Q: Describe yourself in one word.
Q: If you could meet anyone from the past, who would it be?
A: Whitney Houston. Man, I love her.
Q: What do you see when you look in the mirror?
A: Honestly, I see someone who is so hardworking, and that makes me proud. I don’t very often have it all together, but I see passion and perseverance and I think those qualities look more beautiful than my fleeky eyebrows & fresh hair.
Q: How did you become a blogger?
A: I honestly don’t even know — weird right. I’ve always loved building brands and watching how a brand can grow from ideas into movements that people truly relate to and support. I went to school for Public Relations and for the longest time all I wanted to do was work for a huge company in their PR department, but anytime someone asked what company I could see myself working for I had no answer, and it’s because it did not exist. From that one thought, I knew I wanted to work for myself. I want to build my own PR firm to help young women present their ideas to the world and ensure that their message is being received and understood. Then I thought, what better way to relate to the women I want to help than to build a brand of my own, show them that I can not only build a brand, but I relate to their insecurities, struggles, and concerns in life and throughout the brand building process. So I started writing about it, and then boom, I was a “blogger”. I’ll be honest; I’m not too fond of the term. When I’m asked if I’m a blogger I’m normally very clear that Nude Lipstix is a brand that has been built to encourage young women to grow and become more confident and comfortable with who they are, it just so happens that at this point in time Nude Lipstix is blog focused. But that doesn’t mean we won’t host networking events, parties, launch clothing lines, makeup products or do anything that will promote women’s growth and development.
Q: What were some of the biggest lessons you learned as a blogger?
A: I think the biggest lesson I’ve learned so far is to keep my blinders on. It is so easy to see what everyone else is doing and accomplishing and to get distracted by that. You start to see how other people are growing their following quicker, producing “cooler” content, even creating content faster, but you have to ignore that and always remember why you started in the first place.
Q: How often do you allow yourself to “check up”/celebrate on your successes?
A: Not often enough, I’m so focused on creating and producing content that I often forget to acknowledge what I’ve already accomplished. So I normally do a “check up” when I’m feeling extremely overwhelmed, also when the universe gives me a sign that I deserve to be celebrated. Like, if a complete stranger takes their time to let me know that one of my posts resonated with them; I normally take that moment to be proud of what Nude Lipstix has done so far.
Q: Do you ever worry about being so open and honest online?
A: Yes all the time, but I don’t worry about sharing too much or being too open. I’m actually worried that I’m not sharing enough. I promised to remain as open and authentic with my audience as possible so they can witness a girl grow into the women she aspires to be. I wonder if I’m too selective about the information I share and if I should share more.
Q: What is something you accomplished this year that you are most proud of?
A: I am so proud that I managed to keep growing and creating for NL while getting through my breakup. My Ex had a lot to do with me starting the process and being brave enough to start releasing content. When we broke up I battled the idea of quitting and I’m just so glad I persevered. I realized that while he provided support; the ideas, the work, the passion was all me and that I just had to keep pushing forward.
Q: What was something that was difficult for you at the beginning of the year, but is no longer difficult?
A: The most difficult thing for me at the beginning of the year was letting go of the people and things that were no longer helping me grow. As much as I wanted to change, I couldn’t accept the fact that in order to evolve I had to get rid of some bad people and bad habits. I was naïve and thought I could change while the people I surrounded myself with could stay the same. But letting things go is no longer hard for me, if I don’t like your energy and you are not providing my life with positive contributions, peace out! I’ve learned that energy is far too important. When you’re in your low moments, and self-doubt starts creeping in that’s when you lean on the people closed to you. If those people are negative, that bad energy is going to seep into your mind because it is weak at the moment. You need those positive and uplifting people that will allow you to feed off their good energy when you’re low. Your circle needs to be filled with people who will encourage you to keep going and always remind you of your dreams. Once you see how important that is for your soul and mind, you’ll have no problems waving goodbye.
Q: What was the most challenging thing for you this year? Or the last few years?
A: Having the courage to start Nude Lipstix has by far been the most challenging thing I’ve faced this year. I’ve always had ideas, and I’m sure most of us do, but having the courage to actually turn your idea into a reality is so challenging. Not even from a hard work perspective, but also in regards to your mindset. You have to be strong enough mentally to get over a lot of hurdles, like judgment, criticism, misinterpretations, just to name a few. So even though I haven’t gotten very far as yet, I’m very happy that I’ve started this journey because it was quite the challenge.
Q: What event in your life most shaped the way you are now?
A: I honestly believe change happens gradually, so it’s hard for me to pinpoint one moment or event. I think all of the events in my life played their part for shaping me into who I am. But if I was to focus on one, I would say when I broke my ankle. Being forced to depend on people and to stay in one place really does something to your mind. It gave me the opportunity to really sit down and think about my future plans and goals and act on them.
Q: What 3 most important things you’ve learned this year?
1) Patience, which is something I think I’ll be learning until the day I die.
2) Trust your instincts; we have them for a reason.
3) Everyone has a purpose, so we have to stop allowing ourselves to believe we don’t.
Q: What’s your most important goal for next year?
A: My most important goal is to finally launch my PR firm – The Lipstix Lab. I’m just so ready to start focusing on helping other women’s dreams come true.
Q: How do you plan on achieving them?
A: Besides all the research, networking, and content creation, I really plan on achieving this by remaining passionate and following my gut.
Q: Of the books you read this year, which was your favourite and why?
A: How to be a Badass was my favourite. And not because of anything, in particular, that was written in the book, but because of how accepted it was by my peers, and women my age. It let me know that we are all in a place and have this mindset now where we are ready to grow, learn and achieve. That to me was so beautiful, seeing that more and more young women like myself are ready to admit that it doesn’t just take a college degree and a man to build a life you’re proud of, it starts from within.
Q: What do you love about yourself?
A: I love my determination.