One of the most exciting things about expecting a baby is getting to pick a name! Some people have their names picked out all along and others wait till they set eyes on their baby before settling on a name. For me, I never had specific names in mind, but what I knew for sure was that I wanted something original…my name is Rekeisha after all. So, read along to see how we chose our daughter’s name and why I don’t regret it, no matter how badly people butcher it!
As soon as we found out we were expecting, I knew I wanted to know the gender, mainly because I am a planner, but also because I needed the time to think through and find the perfect name for our “little bean”. With a name like Rekeisha, I was certain I wanted them to have a unique name. Luckily, my partner wasn’t set on a name and allowed me the freedom to pick whichever name I liked, his only specification was not to pick a name which began with the letter “L”, because he was tongue tied and finds it difficult to pronounce the letter. My mother didn’t want me to pick a name which began with the letter “D”, because in her logic most negative words began with the letter “D”. For example, deceit, depression, degrade, defunct…I could go on. Lol. I was lucky because I chose not to share my name before she was born, I didn’t get a lot of “feedback” on what I should name her. I did, however, receive tips that as we live in a bilingual area, I should pick a name for that would be easily pronounced in both English and in French…I’ll be honest, I understood the reasons behind this, but I discounted this claim. Her father was an Englishman after all, so yea- it was most likely going to be more English than anything. I did consider what her name would look like on paper and if people would make assumptions about her based on her name and the truth is, they will anyway- even if she would be named Mary Smith (no offence to the Mary Smiths out there). I don’t believe it’s a good idea to “whitewash” names on the basis that people will struggle to pronounce them or that people will judge. They may do that anyways– at the end of the day, the world is a diverse place, we have all learnt how to pronounce the name of the famous composer, Tchaikovsky, so we can adapt and pronounce any name you can dream up. At the end of the day, people can and will struggle with any name, there is no formula for the perfect name and I had to go with a name that resonated with us- not others.
For whatever reason, years before I was pregnant, I had purchased a baby name book, because I enjoyed knowing the heritage behind names, so I was so excited to look at it with more gusto, now that I was expecting! Because I’m not going to have another little munchkin, you can read why here: Why I Won’t Have A 2nd Child, I feel comfortable sharing the names we considered, you’re welcome 😉. I was a lot more assured in my choices of names for girls, whether it was because I’d always wanted a daughter or because they just sounded so beautiful to me. Because my own name is a mixture of both my parents’ names, I attempted to find a mash-up of mine and my partner’s name, his being Benjamin. But after hating how it didn’t roll off the tongue, and knowing his ex’s name was Brianna, I didn’t want ANY names which resembled. Scrap the Ben/Rekeisha mash-ups. I then decided to go for names that struck a chord with me. I really wanted a name that was somewhat “classic”, modern, but still different.
– Arriah Esmay Dreu (2nd choice)
We always knew if we would have a baby boy, his middle name would honour my partner’s late father, who passed away unexpectedly when he was 14 years old. His name was Andrew, which is also why we ultimately chose the female version of “Drew” for our daughter’s middle name. For some reason, at one stage, I was obsessed with names that were either Irish or African. I have no real logic behind this, maybe it was hormones or the fact that I am in a relationship with a Brit, but they spoke to me.
– Brennan Andrew or Andrew Brennan (2nd choice)
– Zion Andrew (?)
– Callen Andrew Brennan
– Caden Andrew Brennan
– Kieran Andrew (?)
– Ellis Andrew (?)
– Braxton Andrew (?)
– Massai Andrew (?)
– Nasari Andrew (?)
In the end, we chose:
Neveah Esmay Drew
This unique name rose out of the mist in 2001 to become a popular sensation. It’s created from an anagram–“heaven” backwards–and many parents are captivated by the concept.
I loved this name the instant I came upon it! I could actually visualise her with that name, the one thing I didn’t like was how it looked when it was spelt the correct way from the anagram of heaven. So I decided to switch the order of the “e” and “a”. Hey, presto! Her middle name was one I didn’t have to give much thought to, my great, great grandmother’s names was Esmay, it has been the middle name that has been passed down to my grandmother, my mom and me, so it was a given that my daughter would have this as her middle name. And like stated above, her paternal grandfather was named Andrew, giving her names with such significance we knew we wanted to link in her whole family. For a while we played around with spelling Drew differently, but settled on sticking to the original- her name was different enough. 🤣 I wanted different and I had accomplished that many times over.
So, there you have it-choosing Neveah’s name was pretty easy considering and we had it figured out by abut 6 months, which left me plenty of time to overthink about what she’d look like… How did you choose your child/children’s names? Have you always known or did you stumble upon it? We’d love to hear about it- let us know!