Witty, funny, genuine- just a few adjectives to describe Heather from Wheels & Heels/ Sacramento Wheels & Heels, we have never met her in person, but we feel that we’ve been friends with her forever. Her blog is a breath of fresh, honest air, fashion and truths about her life and using a wheelchair in an able bodied focused world. We know that social media can be a veil from real life, but Heather ensures she uses her social platform to not only share her life, but to also educate others about the truths and reality of cruising with wheels. We have been openly stalking her social media for about a year now and after we couldn’t handle it anymore, we decided that we just HAD to choose her as one of our RnR interviewees, because she is just so awesome! Read away and see for yourself and be sure to give her blog a follow, you won’t be disappointed!
Q: What is the tone/sound of your alarm clock?
A: Ummm, my helper wakes me up so I don’t really ever set an alarm.
Q: Morning person or night owl?
A: Night owl
Q: What’s your fave quote?
A: “To thine own self be true” – Shakespeare
Q: Sandals or Sneakers?
A: Sandals w/ a heel, please
Q: Your word for the year
Q: What’s the last picture you took?
A: A selfie for my IG stories about being tired at work. It’s raining today and making me feel so dang sleepy.
Q: What book would you recommend?
A: Becoming by Michelle Obama
Q: Countryside or beach?
Q: One fun fact about you.
A: My mom and I were born by the same labor and delivery nurse.
Q: Electronic or paper calendar?
A: Electronic. It goes in my phone or I will forget it.
Q: Most used emoji?
A: LOL emoji
Q: Fave flower.
Q: Savoury or sweet?
Q: Favourite Animal?
A: Cat or Penguin
Q: Fave artists.
A: Music artists – Reba, Lumineers, Maren Morris and Taylor Swift.
Q: Fave season.
Q: What was your favourite book as a child?
A: Piggy Pie
Q: How would you describe your fashion style?
A: One bold item and then classic pieces.
Q: What do you do to relax?
A: Watch tv or read outside.
Q: What’s your most favourite place, you’ve travelled?
A: Seattle is amazing
Q: Which element best represents you?
Q: How would you spend an ideal day?
A: Sleeping in, grabbing a bagel, spending time with people I love, wine tasting and then a nap. I would end the night with an outside meal on a warm night then listen to a live band.
Q: What are you most thankful for?
A: My parents and family. I was very lucky to be raised by people who never let me settle in regards to my disability or use it as an excuse. They never babied my sister or I.
Q: Current role model
A: My sister-in-law. She has gone back to school and is working hard to become a school teacher in Japan.
Q: What causes you anxiety?
A: A lot of things…But mostly when people are late.
Q: If I could grant you one wish, what would it be?
A: I would wish that girls today knew that they are beautiful the way they are. I feel so sad for teenage girls and young girls and all the pressure they must feel to fit in.
Q: What 3 things bring you joy?
A: A clean house, wine, kisses from my boyfriend.
Q: When was the last time you meditated/prayed?
A: Its been awhile – I can’t even remember.
Q: Would you say your religion is central in your life?
Q: Can you recall a pivotal moment when your faith/belief helped you deal with something in your life?
A: My brother’s death was very hard on me. I definitely had and have moments where I swear he is around.
Q: What would you like your legacy to be?
A: That being yourself is okay and that your flaws are what can actually help you succeed in life.
Q: Describe yourself in one word.
Q: If you could meet anyone from the past, who would it be?
A: I would love to meet my great grandma, she worked on airplanes during WWII and was a badass. She died when I was one so I don’t remember her at all but I did meet her.
Q: What is one thing you would like to overcome/conquer?
A: My need to control everything. I have gone to see a therapist and it has helped a lot, but I still have a lot of work to do.
Q: What do you see when you look in the mirror?
A: Someone who is kind, thoughtful and funny. Someone who is working hard to ensure that others around me are taken care of and someone who is learning to love things even when not perfect.
Q: You have been open about living your life with your wheelchair, how important is it to you to ensure you remain visible in such an able body focused world?
A: I think it is vital. So many little girls are growing up in able-bodied homes, schools and it’s all they see on TV. My hope is that my own account can help anyone that may feel they are not represented, but especially those little girls.
Q: What is something you’d like people to know about having a wheelchair as part of your everyday?
A: That I am not confined to my chair. I can sit anywhere I want but my chair gives me the freedom to do things on my own.
Q: What advice would you give anyone who is struggling with embracing their uniqueness?
A: Take your time and don’t rush it. It is hard for all of us to embrace what makes us different.
Q: What relationship advice would you give?
A: Talk. Even when it is hard. If they don’t want to talk then you better walk. Without communication, you won’t be able to get through the hard times or enjoy the good.😉
Q: Do you find that life in your wheelchair has impacted your relationship, in both positive and negative ways?
A: 100% – it is hard when I would online date and because guys don’t look too hard at my pictures, they would not realize I was disabled. When we would chat, I would have to clarify that and I would never hear from them again. In the beginning, it hurt my feelings. But at the same time, it really helped me identify people who were caring and compassionate. My bf now, never made me feel weird and has been a great caregiver. I think it does force you to break down certain physical barriers sooner with a potential partner – like when you need help being lifted onto the couch. Sometimes that was a nice advantage.
Q: How did you become a blogger?
A: I followed some bloggers for a while and it was something I wanted to do but just never could get myself to pull the trigger. Finally, last spring I said, “What am I waiting for?!” My blogs 1st anniversary is in a few days.
Q: Do you ever struggle with being “too” open on your blog?
A: There are things I want to share but don’t because they are private family matters, but if it is only about me then I share that. It is important to consider others’ desire for privacy when blogging and IG.
Q: What is something you accomplished this year that you are most proud of?
A: Paying off 1 of 2 student loans. The other is almost done too!
Q: What was something that was difficult for you at the beginning of the year, but is no longer difficult?
A: In January I decided to cut back on shopping. I was spending way too much in order to keep up with other fashion bloggers and it was really hurting my bank account. But I have found a balance and love my posts way more now.
Q: What was the most challenging thing for you this year? Or the last few years?
A: Well, in December my boyfriend and his teenage daughter moved in with me and that has been an adjustment. But things are getting better and better. It was hard to give up my personal space, but I love building that relationship with his daughters and getting to spend time together as a family.
Q: What 3 most important things have you learned this year?
A: I am not always right, you are supposed to grow and change, and that being in a family means I need to do things more so for them than me.
Q: How does your other 1/2 deal with you being a blogger? Are there any subjects that are off limits?
A: He is so supportive of anything that makes me happy. He is in comedy so there are times I am the subject of a joke or his act. We had a few fights related to this topic actually, early on in our relationship (things he tweeted and joked about) but we know each other so well now that it hasn’t been an issue. But we both try to respect the others privacy about when we are mad at each other and not using that as a joke or post. I don’t care to post about sex and stuff, but think it’s important to note that people with disabilities should and can have sexually fulfilled lives.
Q: When people visit your blog or Insta page, what do you hope they take away from it?
A: That people with disabilities are a lot more like you than different.
Q: What are some of the goals you hope to accomplish with your blog?
A: I want to reach more people so that if they meet someone in real life with a disability they feel more comfortable around them. I am aiming to use this digital platform to make more friends and share my life as a woman with a disability to empower able-bodied people to not be so weird or like they would do something or say something dumb so it’s better to ignore the disabled person.
Q: What’s your most and important goal for this year?
A: Pay off my credit card and Corky and I want to move into a house vs our apartment.
Q: How do you plan on achieving them?
A: Checking in daily on my spending habits and ensuring Corky and I talk about money and our feelings.
Q: Of the books, you read this year, which was your favourite and why?
A: Repeat Answer – Becoming by Michelle Obama
Q: What do you love most about yourself?
A: That I am outgoing.