Effervescent, full of life, honest and straightforward, this beautiful spirit is beyond magic! Always sharing topics and posts about subjects close to her heart, mixed with humour and wit. I first met this Comiccon geek in high school 🏫 as her bestie is one of my oldest friends and we have continued to keep in touch over the years-mostly because she consistently entertains or shares posts which make me think, and that is always a good thing! So, read along and see why she’s such a wonderful person and why we wanted to share her with you!
Q: What is the tone/sound of your alarm clock?
A: Some spacey type ringtone. It’s called “orbit”
Q: Morning person or night owl?
A: Neither. Both. Depends on the day. I try to be up at 6am daily.
Q: What’s your fave quote?
A: No Day but Today, and/or, Always Keep Fighting.
Q: Sandals or Sneakers?
A: Flip-flops if I could all day everyday.
Q: Your word for the year.
Q: What’s the last picture you took?
A: A toy my daughter got from “Santa”.
Q: What book would you recommend?
A: Harry Potter Series.
Q: Countryside or beach?
Q: One fun fact about you.
A: I’m a huge Geek and Nerd. I love Comiccon and Math. I’m also very Nomadic. I don’t like being in one place for too long. I have to now because the kids are in school, but eventually I’m moving into an RV and travelling all across Canada 365 days a year.
Q: Electronic or paper calendar?
A: I use the app a lot to verify dates, but I use a paper one for appointments and such.
Q: Fave flower?
A: Wild flowers.
Q: Savoury or sweet?
A: Depends on the time of the month. 😉
Q: Fave artists?
A: My Dad. He’s a brilliant singer, Comedian, and Photographer.
Q: Fave season?
A: Fall. It’s so beautiful.
Q: Coffee or Tea?
A: Tea. I’m addicted to Earl Grey.
Q: What’s your favourite dessert?
A: Chocolate anything
Q: How would you describe your fashion style?
Q: How would your best friend describe you?
A: Depends who’s asking. 😉 There will be a few swears in there, but also that I’m fiercely loyal, always have her back, that I’m her person, and she loves me to death.
Q: What do you do to relax?
A: Cuddle with my kids and watch movies.
Q: Of the books, you read this year, which was your favourite and why?
A: I didn’t read anything meaningful. Some kinky smut and I loved them all!
Q: Current role model?
A: I don’t really have one. I just try to be the best version of me every single day. I’m always trying to improve, and be kinder, more empathetic, and wiser everyday.
Q: What is “home” to you?
A: It’s a cliche, but wherever my hubby and kids are. We can be anywhere as long as we’re together.
Q: What are you most grateful for?
A: My life is so good right now. It’s not perfect, but we have a roof over our head, a car, food on our plates and minimal financial troubles. I am so so grateful for that because I remember when I barely had any of that.
Q: If you could change one event from history, what would it be?
A: That’s a hard one. Obviously I’d love to change the bad. All the Genocides, Slavery, hunger etc. But changing history is never a good idea. Would we be where we are now if we did?
Q: What causes you anxiety?
A: Everything and nothing. I’m a Mother. A Mother that suffers from severe anxiety. I am working hard on overcoming it and little by little I have been facing one fear at a time.
Q: If I could grant you one wish, what would it be?
A: Happiness for my family.
Q: What 3 things brings you joy?
A: My family, the Holiday’s, being at Comiccon.
Q: What steps do you take to ensure you take time out for yourself?
A: I got a part time job that I love out of the house. I make sure to have at least one weekend away a year (Commiccon 😉 ), and sometimes I’ll wake up an hour early to enjoy a cup of tea and my favourite tv show.
Q: When was the last time you meditated/prayed?
A: I pray every time I feel severe bouts of anxiety. It helps soothe me. I’m not a religious person by any means, but it brings me a lot of comfort to leave my fears and stresses in God’s hands.
Q: Would you say religion is central in your life?
A: Not at all. I don’t like organized religion. But I do have faith in a higher being. Like I mentioned in the last question, it brings me comfort and peace.
Q: When did that change for you?
A: I never grew up overly religious. My Mother was Catholic, my Father was Jewish. We didn’t follow one or the other.
Q: Can you recall a pivotal moment when your faith/belief helped you deal with something in your life?
A: All the time. There are many things I went through where I just had faith it would always work out and it always did. There was a time in 2014, we were living in Cornwall and we were miserable. We were in the worst financial storm we’ve ever lived. We could barely feed ourselves and the kids. But I had faith that it would all work out, and it did. We moved and are much happier now.
Q: What advice would you have for someone who is struggling with their mental health?
A: Thats a tough one because we are all so different. NEVER be afraid to reach out and get help. It does not make you a failure. Admitting you need help makes you strong. Anyone that faces their demons on a daily basis is a badass. You deserve to be happy. Get help if you need it.
Q: What would you like your legacy to be?
A: I hope people remember me for my kind heart, for being real, and always doing my best to see things from another person’s point of view.
Q: Describe yourself in one word.
Q: Do you struggle with being too open on social media?
A: I do. I like to be real and authentic and relatable like most people, but I’m also a pretty private person in general. I’d rather be a source of positivity for people, even if I’m not always feeling positive.
Q: If you could meet anyone from the past, who would it be?
A: That’s a hard one. I can’t think of anyone from the past I’d like to meet. Most historic figures come from a time I wouldn’t want to be in.
Q: What do you see when you look in the mirror?
A: I see me. Perfectly, imperfect.
Q: What do you love most about yourself?
A: My heart.
Q: What advice would you give to anyone who is struggling with loving themselves?
A: Fake it till you make it. People hate hearing it, but it’s true. Just tell yourself everyday that you love yourself, even if you don’t believe it. Trust me, one day you will believe it. Our words matter and the way we speak to ourselves, matters. You can love yourself how you are and still want to improve.
Q: How has motherhood changed you?
A: I have become much less selfish that’s for sure. I’m exhausted all the time. It’s changed my body. I am happy though, even if it’s hard. I think I’m braver, I’m less tolerant to BS. I’m a tad more mature.
Q: What is one thing you wished you were told before you became a mother?
A: People will always criticize the choices you make. Family, friends, random people. You do you. You know what your baby needs, trust your gut.
Q: What advice would you give young Rachel?
A: All the mistakes you make will shape you into who you become, but be smarter about money. Figure it out now.
Q: You have sons and a daughter, do you find your parenting style is different or would you say you parent them the same?
A: My parenting is different with all of my kids. They’re all so vastly different, I can’t parent them all the same way. I do spoil my youngest a bit more, but she’s my last and I’m allowed.
Q: What has being in a relationship taught you about yourself and about love?
A: I met my current hubby at 19 years old, almost 15 years ago. I have grown up immensely since being with him. He is 13 years older and had a 4 year old daughter. Becoming a “Mother” at 19 to a kid that wasn’t one I gave birth to was a challenge. But I knew I had to be serious about the relationship because it wasn’t just about me. I learned that love isn’t perfect. That we had to be a team on all fronts. We fight, we bicker, but we have each others backs always, no matter what.
Q: What is something you accomplished this year that you are most proud of?
A: I have had a crippling fear of storms for many years. I couldn’t function if ever there was the slightest chance of a storm in the forecast. This summer I worked very hard to overcome that and I did. I live in the Laurentians of Quebec, so we get some impressive summer storms. I found the beauty in them and learned to embrace them.
Q: What was something that was difficult for you at the beginning of the year, but is no longer difficult?
A: Budgets. Curbing my spending habits and forming new ones.
Q: What was the most challenging thing for you this year? Or the last few years?
A: Definitely getting smarter with finances.
Q: What was the trigger to get you to make that change and what advice if any, would you give to others?
A: I was sick and tired of having no control, of living paycheck to paycheck, of my hard earned money belonging to creditors. I had enough. My advice is to make a budget and stick to it. Get rid of debts in baby steps. Save money. Debt might be common, but it’s no way to live. It’s especially true in times like this right now with this pandemic. I follow Dave Ramsey’s method, minus his preaching and American-ness. There’s a group on Facebook called Dave Ramsey TMM Baby Steppers-Canada that I’ve found very helpful and inspiring! I’ve always been a nerd though and love numbers. Making budgets makes me happy and learning about finance makes me happy!
Q: What 3 most important things have you learned this year?
A: 1. I can do hard things. 2. I am Good Enough. 3. To listen to my body.
Q: What’s your most important goal for next year?
A: I have two. Get out of debt, and take better care of my health.
Q: How do you plan on achieving them?
A: I’m well on my way to being debt free, so I will continue my habits to ensure it! And the second I’m still trying to figure out. First step is to cut out the foods are making me sick.